Curvy Women: Curvy Mom Bullet 3/31/14

Curvy Women

The Actual Difference between Women Who Are Hot and Who Are Beautiful

LIFE • LAUREN MARTIN • FEB 13, 2014 - 2:58PM

Women. We’re curvy, skinny, hood, pretty, cute, ethnic, bad, dime pieces, unicorns, babes, pieces of tail, juicy, fine, sexy, foxes, sultry, voluptuous… The list goes on.
When was the last time you heard a man describe a woman with an adjective that isn’t dripping in sexual innuendos and defaming premises? When was the last time you heard a man describe a woman by something that compliments her soul and her inherent elegance? When was the last time you heard a man describe a woman as beautiful?
There’s been a loss of respect when it comes to admiring women, shifting towards describing us as objects, rather than people. Men look at women as pieces of tail, “things” to be conquered, rather than appreciating women for their individuality.
A large portion of today’s men are momentarily allured by hair extensions, large chests, big bottoms and stilettos. They think sexuality comes in the form of bronzed skin, bikini waxes and fake eyelashes. They’ve been programmed to believe that any woman with a sculpted body and perky breasts is attractive.
What about the women who don’t want to indulge in the male fantasy? What about the women who just want to wear comfortable sweaters and flats? What about the women who don’t dress to impress the opposite sex, but instead, to just feel good in their own skin? Isn’t there attractiveness in that? Isn’t there an appeal to that sense of confidence?
When did women become forced to acquiesce to this standard, or otherwise get lost in the crowd? When did getting a man mean painting on layers of makeup and investing in miniskirts?
There is a certain type of man that continually defames women, judging them solely on sex appeal, failing to see the actual grandeur of women. These are the men who don’t understand the concept of natural beauty and uniqueness in flaws.
They don’t recognize that “hotness” doesn’t last past midnight, when the makeup has smudged onto the pillow and the hair extensions have been taken out. It doesn’t last when the spray tans have washed away and the tight dresses have come off.
It’s not real; it’s an illusion that’s been forcing women to conform to unhealthy habits for too many years.
It’s time these men are reminded of the difference between hot and beautiful. It’s time men realize that women have more to offer than just a body.
Women are stunning creatures, with assets and traits both unique and enchanting to each one of us, and it’s time we started showcasing our individuality and stop giving in to the illusion of sexy created by man. Because beauty isn’t about wanting to f*ck her; it’s about wanting to be with her.
Hot is admired from afar; beauty is to be held.
Hot is perception; beauty is appreciation.
Hot is smoky-eyed; beautiful is bare-faced.
Hot is an appearance; beautiful is more than skin deep.
Hot is the way she moans; beautiful is the way she speaks.
Hot is a strong appeal; beautiful is strong mind.
Hot is youthful; beautiful is ageless.
Hot is conventional; beauty is unique.
Hot is a one-night stand; beautiful is sleepless nights.
Hot is a state of being; beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Hot is devious; beautiful is innocent.
Hot is bending her over; beautiful is baking her blueberry pancakes.
Hot is sultry; beautiful is wholesome.
Hot is her curves; beauty is her nerves.
Hot is a text message; beautiful is a love letter.

Hot is a facade; beautiful is a woman.

Char  3/31/14
    As a mother this scares the hell out of me.  I want my daughter to know that no matter what, that no matter what size, make-up, no make-up, extensions or no extensions, that she is appealing.  That there are men out there that will want to be with her for who she is no matter what.  I don’t want her to be fake to please anyone but especially to impress others when not impressing herself.  She needs to feel strong, dynamic, proud, powerful, unique, invincible, lovable, kind, and so much more for and to herself.  And then and only then can she and will she even care about a guy, and what he cares about or what he is  wanting or not wanting from her.  But he should want her for all the things that her dad and I love her for, her just being her.  No falsehoods or lies, no roles to remember because it is all really real.  Not  be worried that something will fall out, hike up, smear, or whatever for she will feel comfortable with her own skin and all that she wears. 
     She is so far ahead of the game compared to where I was at her age and I am so proud of her each and every day.  Not to say that she, like all of us does not have days that are off.  Or that I have not passed down some of my bad habits.  God knows, I am trying so hard to be aware of when I do it, but not berating myself for what I still call flaws.  I don’t even have them physically anymore or at least most of them.  It is just so ingrained I can’t seem to lose the stinkin’ thinkin’.    So as I surf the web I will bring to you what I find.  This article just spoke to me somehow. This in some ways was a little harsher than how I would have put things but I guess that is what the younger gals are finding out there as they are dating.  Since my daughter is only 13 we still have a few years but it is frightening. 
     Today’s discussion with my daughter was, "Do you think it is weird to like a boy again that was kind of mean to me and in the middle of being my boyfriend (at this age is in name only at school, believe me.)  And he was talking to this other girl he knows I don’t like behind my back and gave her the Valentine gift I gave him to her?  I said let’s put it this way. 
     “You would not like your older sister to go back to your niece’s daddy because he is mean and did things behind her back that was not nice.  Do you think it is any different?  Doing something dishonest and behind your back is still not manning up as you say.  So, what do you say?  Would you tell your sister or one of your best friends that it was okay for one of their guy friends to do it to them?”  She shook her head no.  Then I said, “Then why is okay for you to have it done to you?”  Things got really quiet in the car after that which is okay too.  Then I said that might be a good thing for you to talk to your councilor about.  She did agree and we just started singing in the car again.
Wow, another mom bullet avoid for today.  Curvy Mom or not, being a mom is hard.


FIX YOU                                                       CARRIE ELKS
Posted:  March 31, 2014

Fix You"Richard, we had a baby."

31st December 1999. Seventeen-year-old Brit, Hanna Vincent, meets New Yorker, Richard Larsen; a Columbia student and step-son of scion Leon Maxwell. Divided by wealth, distance and a common language, an unconventional friendship grows between the two.
From London to New York, from 1999 to 2012, Fix You follows the story of quirky, music-loving Hanna and handsome, driven Richard as they fall in love and are torn apart. Their tempestuous relationship leads to an explosive revelation that threatens to destroy them both.
Emotional and touching, this is a story of second chances. Is their shattered love beyond repair?
Fix You is a stand-alone novel

This story followed the lives of two people. Hanna and Richard, Hanna lives in Britain with her mother and is 17 when the story begins. Richard is a student at Columbia two years older than Hanna. They at a party in London that his father and step mother are putting on and Hanna’s mother is the party planner and needed help so she asked Hanna to help serve. A spark between the two started the moment they saw each other but he was caught off guard by her being so straight forward. After the party his parents hired her as a nanny for their daughter. That would turn out to be a friend ship for the rest of her life. Hanna ends up working in the music business when she is able to get an interview for with a new rising star because she knows him and the band because they grew up together. This also will be a lifelong friend. Hanna goes to New York to see her father and to see Richard and is there when he graduates. They make sure they are their foe each other at different times in their lives. When it comes to dating they know there is an attraction but being across the ocean seems to be stopping them. Her mother dies suddenly and he is there for her as much as possible. After that 9-11 happens and his step father is killed so he must take over the company. They don’t see each other for two years when they happen to get together. She finds out that he is engaged and one night when she is all alone and drinking she calls him needing help to get home. He realizes that it is the anniversary of her mother’s death that night they end up in bed and the next morning she is embarrassed with herself. He on the other hand tells her that when his fiancée gets back he going to call it off. Later that morning he calls her to tell her that his fiancée is in the hospital and he does not know when he well be able to tell her. She hires someone for her office in New York and moves back to London. Weeks later finding out that she is pregnant she calls him but gets his mother instead and she lays into her so she never tells him. What happens next takes place 18 months later and let’s just say that part of the story is great and it felt real. This was a very good book about two people and everyone around them and what happened in their lives. A very good book and I really like all of the characters. I got this book from net galley.


THE CONSEQUENCES                             COLETTE FREEDMAN
Posted:  March 31, 2014

The Consequences (The Affair, #2) In the riveting follow-up to her acclaimed debut novel, Colette Freedman explores the aftermath of infidelity from three different perspectives--husband, wife, and mistress. The end of an affair may be only the beginning. . .
Over the course of one tumultuous Christmas Eve, Kathy Walker confirmed her suspicions about her husband's affair, confronted his mistress, Stephanie, and saved her marriage. She and Robert have eighteen years, two teenagers, and a film production business between them--plus a bond that Kathy has no intention of giving up on. Yet though Robert is contrite, Kathy can't quite silence her doubts.
While Robert reels from his wife's ultimatum and his mistress's rejection, Stephanie makes a discovery: she's pregnant. Her resolve to stay away from Robert wavers now that they could make a real family together. And in the days that follow, Stephanie, Robert, and Kathy must each reckon with the intricate realities of desire, the repercussions of betrayal, and the secrets that, once revealed, ripple through lives and relationships in thoroughly unexpected ways.


I liked the way this book was written. In that it was broken into three sections giving the story the prospective from the three main characters. The story is around a wife who found out that her husband is having an affair. She confronts her and the husband and the mistress tells the husband to go with his wife for she wants to save the marriage. He of course does not know what he wants. But he goes home with the wife. The story picks up with the mistress and here leaving for Wisconsin to be with her family for Christmas. While there he best talks about the whole situation is really from her father, and she was surprised that he was not as judgmental as she thought he would be. His advice and his reasoning for open minded make sense and go along with the story. The second part is about the husband and he is trying to figure out how his wife found out. When he talks to someone that works for the company he does find out but does not like the rest of what she has to tell him. Later in the story when one of his best friends is sick and in the hospital he also gives him some advice that is don’t follow me and make my same mistakes. Turns out he does not listen. The last part is from the wife side or the way she put everything together. She also is trying to give him the benefit of some other things that happen but she can’t help herself when she runs into the mistress once again. The ending was great and I did not see what was going to happen over the last 10 pages or so. An excellent story and book. Really enjoyed the different chapters with each person. Thought that was a great touch. I got this book from net galley.


SURRENDER MY LOVE                           LISA EUGENE
Posted:  March 31, 2014

Surrender My Love by Lisa Eugene
Patients are dying at Washington Memorial Hospital and no one knows why….

Nurse Chloe Bennett's life is a mess and her job means everything to her. She needs it to support her family. When she finds herself in the middle of yet another Code Blue, she questions the unexplained deaths.
Doctor Brad Markson is a world renowned cardiac surgeon. Brilliant, powerful, rich,and sinfully sexy! He does not tolerate losing patients. When his patient mysteriously dies, he demands answers.
The two work together to unravel the sinister events surrounding the deaths at Washington Memorial Hospital, and soon find themselves falling for each other. When Chloe becomes the center of suspicion, she is surprised to find she has an ally in the gorgeous Dr. Markson.
Shy, sweet Chloe is unable to resist him with his sultry blue eyes and wickedly sexy smile. His passionate kisses ignite her body, and his mere touch induces shivering pleasure. She doesn't know if she’s ready to give away her heart after her traumatic past, and Brad is battling career demons and his own personal issues.
Can the two learn to trust each other? Will they live long enough to find love and happiness…or will there be two more deaths?

     The story revolves around a hospital and all its happenings.  Which there are a lot normally but this is a lot more than usual.  There is deaths, maybe a murder, love sex, the lovelorn, the horny, oh yeah ill people and people getting well. 
     Most of all this story revolves around Chloe Bennett a 26 year old naive yet wise old soul who is a nurse who works nights and any other extra shifts she can get to support her mother, brother and herself.  You see her mother was severely handicapped in a car accident which caused her to be mentally challenged.  So, she has in house care as much as she can for her.  Yet, she never ask for help except for her no good brother Richard who is into drugs.
     None of her friends at the hospital even know that she had a fiancé before she started working at the hospital.  She had dated him for three years and they got engaged and then the day of the wedding she was left at the alter he said he just didn’t love her and couldn’t go through with it.  Then, he just upped and moved away out of state.  She was left to tell everyone return all the gifts and everything.  She was humiliated and felt less than nothing.  Richard every chance he got told her she was revolting and worthless.
     Which just killed her because at 8 her father passed away and their mother went into a deep depression and Chloe had to take care of everything washing, cleaning, cooking and balancing the checkbook the best she could she took care of Richard. Once he found drugs he just beat her down verbally.  She could not catch a break and she needed him to help her with her mother.  So, she had to take his foul mouth.
     Then, she meets the other person in this story Dr. Brad Markson an alpha male if there ever was one.  He’s rude to everyone, mean, demanding and not a very nice human being.  He is wonderful at his job as a cardiac surgeon. 
     He doesn’t like relationships, he does like sex and he likes it hard, fast, and with no strings attached.  He knew he was going to have to dump the current lady he was seeing, Diane, for she was getting clingy.  When he meets Chloe, she’s the nurse to one of his patients he loses, a friend too.  At first he is angry with her for she is not complying with his demands for answers when he wants them.  But then he understands that she just wants to make sure that his friends and hers and their patient is laid to rest, after the emergency procedures were done, were cleaned up.  He was glad though that she stood up to him not happy but glad that she took care of their friend and had the balls to do it.  He did admire that in her, no one else ever seemed to bother to challenge him.
     From that first day he can’t stop thinking about her.  When she comes to his office to confront him about checking up on her and possibly getting her fired she is upset.  They get it settled but now his mind and both his heads are sore from wanting her.  He was not the only one that could not stop thinking and dreaming about the other.
     As a secondary not and comic relief there is the unrelationship of Bea and Dr. Larry.  Bea is the beautiful black woman who is larger than life.  She is a single mom and a secretary to Dr. Brad.  Now mind you she is only a temp who threatens to quit everyday as they banter and yell at one another (which he loves by the way.)  By the way it’s a ruse, they both love and respect one another very much.  She has been with him 3 years and he pays her double the amount he paid the last full time secretary.
     Now his best friend Dr. Larry a very white man is in a mad crush with Bea.  Yet, he is scared to death of being rejected.  Therefore, comes up with all these ways to try to get up the nerve to ask her out.  Let’s just say the first try lands her in the ER.

     This is an interesting book, it is filled with intrigue, lust, sadness, frustration, erotica, extremely funny in areas, and mystery.  The “Who done it?” is one that keeps you on your seat, I thought I knew who but wasn’t sure.  It was a nail bitter and when I found out I was, “Well crap, I knew that but not that!”
Provided by author for an honest review.

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