CURVY WOMAN: What have we been doing to ourselves?

Curvy Women

What have
we been
doing to ourselves?
Now, we need to get this under control
so our daughters
won’t feel as bad as we did or do.

Gallery Ramblings:
     I am writing this as a mom who is sadden to have heard the reason that may have caused my daughter’s dance friend, 15, for committing suicide a week ago last Tuesday.  Her weight. Yes you read that right, her weight.  I so don’t want that to be true but that is a reason like anything else but that just breaks my heart as a mother.  We do so much to make girls feel like they don’t belong in the skin they are born in.  I don’t know why it still surprises me.  But it does.
     All the ads on TV, all the ads in magazines that have been air brushed to the point where the models can’t even recognize themselves, I’m sure.  So, how are our young girls to know what is real and what is not?  When we ooh and awe over all the things I just mentioned.  Don’t even get me started on the runway models that look like skin and bones to the point of looking like the walking dead.  The funny thing about it when you really read any of the interviews dealing with models they are all talking about food.  About how hungry they are, how fat they would get if they ate a leaf, or how they wish could eat real food.
     The ironic thing about it is there are plenty of fitness models out there that these agencies can go to for the runways and magazines that they could use and they don’t.  At least they could promote fitness and good eating and show that they at least have curves, bought most of their boobs but at least they have curves.  Instead they use these emaciated models to show clothes that they are going to show to average America that are a size 12-14.  Thought you would like this statistic: Today she is 5' 4" and weighs 144 lbs. (wearing between a 12 and 14). All About Fit, Why Don't Clothes Ever Fit?  Some number crunchers put the number of women who wear a size 14 or larger at about half of the female American population.
     Most women like you or I love Emme (size 14) but she is considered a plus size.  Yet, when the true-size woman goes into the stores they still can’t find anything that fits them even though they represent the average woman according the current demographics.
     We all just need to remember as women that as teens we see our bodies one way and as we mature we have this look in our heads that we either want to achieve or maintain.  But the God’s honest truth is that we all have these chemical changes that go on with our bodies whether we like them or not.  Then if we add children into the mix well there is something else that happens to our bodies.  No woman needs to be commenting, bashing, snickering, laughing or bullying any other woman or girl about their body type.  If you do that tells us all more about you than it does about the person you are teasing or hazing. 
     We as women should be sticking together for the good of one another not to talk bad about one another or one up the other.  Most women get enough of that from their men (or a small minority) that they don’t need it from their fellow sisters.  So, I have included some interesting videos that you should take a look at.  One is a woman that you can tell that is very active as you can see but is still over weight by industry standards but for her she is just the way God has meant her to be.  Maybe to teach you and I tolerance.  Then there is a PSA by Pink with her Perfect that is just amazing.  The final video is just beyond words and so worth watching with your girls especially but I watched with both my husband and my daughter.
     I hope the info that I have provided if nothing else has opened a line of communication up between you and your family to the struggles you or a family may be having with weight issues.  Your weight is not you or your personality. It is just a number.  We allow the “Stinkin’ Thinkin’“to get in the way of our daily life when there is so, much outside the four walls we seem to put ourselves into.  Learn to live from where you are. No, I am not sitting on my laurels on Sunday my dear friend, NO Sister in my heart, invited me to go to a Zumba class with her on Sunday.  I have so much fear about doing this I can’t begin to tell you.  It is so far out of my comfort zone it is not even funny.
     But my sister Cory has been there for me all throughout my cancer crazies.  She was there at the hospital when I found out, in fact she took my baby girl to the gift shop to buy me my cancer angel so, that my sweet hubby could give me the news.  We have been through a lot together and I know she would not walk me into anything that would make me turn tail and run or make me feel like an outcast.  For that I love her dearly.  So, me, Cory and Zumba, Sunday, 7pm, prayers that I live.  I have just barely started to add planks, squats and some yoga moves to some of the days in my week.  My energy is getting better so it should hopefully be good. I just need it for my muscles that had started breaking down with all the bed rest I kept having to do because of medication being off and other complications. I'm feeling better now that it is starting to cool down which will help the core temp, since it is hard to regulate it with no thyroid.
     Well, I know that my daughter’s friend is in a better place with no more pain but we are selfish people and as a mother my heart aches for her parents and siblings something fierce. Pray for them as you lay your head down and think about your day they I am sure can use your strength about now I know I would want it if I were them. 
     Until next time we meet and my endless ramblings drives you crazy again…Remember to never be afraid to learn and remember to make it a great day as only you can.  God’s blessing is always with you.



Why a hungry man loves a curvy woman:
Men prefer voluptuous women when they are hungry – while peckish women are more attracted to muscular men, psychologists have found.
The phenomenon is rooted in an ancient evolutionary instinct that prioritises people who are seen as having better access to food.
The researchers believe a woman’s shape – particularly her chest size – is seen to indicate her level of fat reserves.
In their study of 124 men who were shown images of five different body shapes, those who were hungry rated women with larger chests as significantly more attractive.
Dr Viren Swami of London’s University of Westminster said other studies have shown women find muscular men more attractive when they themselves want food.
He said: ‘If a man is hungry, they prefer slightly larger breasts sizes and slightly larger woman. If a women is hungry they prefer more muscular men.
‘These are clues about resources. If you are hungry you want resources and a partner who has resources. Someone who is heavier has access to food.’
Psychologists think that breast size may indicate fat reserves, which in turn indicates access to resources.
Around half of the men in the study had not eaten for six hours, while the rest had full stomachs.
After being shown images of five different body shapes, the hungry group rated women with larger breasts as significantly more attractive.
A second set of tests found the less money a man had, the more he liked curvy women.
Dr Swami said other studies have shown women find muscular men more attractive when they’re hungry.
Professor Gareth Leng, of Edinburgh University, said at Cheltenham Science Festival that the link between hunger and attraction may be down to oxytocin – a hormone produced during childbirth, breastfeeding and lovemaking.

Oxytocin, which is known as the ‘love hormone’, boosts libido but also suppresses hunger. Hunger and sex are basic drives but it means we cannot pursue both at the same time.
Professor Leng said the patterns that Dr Swami has established may be caused by the oxytocin mechanism, although more research is needed to establish a direct link.
Women with big busts and hips have historically proved popular in periods of economic depression, which psychologists think is because larger women communicate strength, control and wealth in tough times.

Dr Swami also said that people find those around them more attractive when they are afraid.
If he is right, it may mean that taking a prospective lover to a scary movie or on a funfair roller coaster is a perfect idea for a date.
It also may explain why people on holiday often fall for their ski instructor.
But he said the link between fear and attraction is an evolutionary mistake.
A quickening pulse, dilating pupils and clammy skin – the body’s reaction to adrenaline – can be mistaken by the body for sexual attraction.
‘We misinterpret our arousal,’ he said. ‘It is an error of presumption.'


"What's beautiful Now?"

What's Beautiful Now: The AllureAmerican Beauty Survey
We polled 2,000 men and women from across the country to find out what's beautiful now. The findings will surprise you.

Seventy-three percent of women say that a curvier body type is more appealing now than it has been in the past ten years. Still, when asked if they wanted to change their hips, 85 percent of women wanted them to be narrower.

Ninety-three percent of women say the pressure to look young today is greater than it's ever been.

When asked about their personal attractiveness, African-American women were three times as likely as Caucasian women to rate themselves at the hot end of the spectrum.

Men said that women are their most beautiful at age 28. In a similar study conducted byAllure in 1991, men voted 31 to be the hottest age.

Thirty-five percent of men and women said that, if there is one part of their bodies they'd like to change the most, it's their stomachs.

Eighty-six percent of men said that they wanted to weigh less—as did 97 percent of women.

Twenty-two percent of men (compared to 11 percent of women) said that if they could change their butts, they would want it to be larger.

Only 3 percent of women defined themselves as cougars. But maybe more of them should: Turns out, 26 percent of men say that cougars are hot.

When asked to pick out adjectives that best describe blonde and brown hair, both men and women said that brunettes and blondes are considered to be beautiful, sexy and classy. However, brunettes were also found to be intelligent and trustworthy. And while blondes are seen as confident, they were also voted most bitchy.

When it comes to sexual attraction, women list their top five favorite male attributes as a guy's face, body type, smile, eyes, and height. And men's answers, in order? Face, body type, breasts, smile, and butt.


Men want to be with her, and apparently women love her, too. Twelve percent of women and 9 percent of men agreed that Angelina Jolie is the celebrity that most represents the physical ideal.

A Fat Girl Dancing: 
Talk Dirty to Me (Jason Derulo)

Pink-Perfect (a body image PSA) 

Taryn Brumfitt - body image movement

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